How To Spend Time With Your Kids
As a parent, "how to spend time with your kids" has been a hot topic in our house
as well as a struggle. As you might be aware that most lead very busy lives. Either
by decision or a feeling that we have no other option than to work countless hours
doing less than meaningful jobs for compensation that's usually just enough to
satisfy the monthly bills. I speak from experience when I tell you that I remember
being not only satisfied with this but thinking this was "NORMAL".
You see this might be common but it's not normal.
Think about that..... There's many things we do regarding our children that are
common because it seems that everyone else is doing these things but when you
actually take a step back and THINK it's definitely "NOT NORMAL".
How To Spend Time With Your Kids-what is means to me
For me spending time with my kids was giving them a ride to practice or gettinghome from work in just enough time to kiss them and say a prayer with them beforebed. Friends and family use to tell me
"Oh Esteban you work so hard and provide a great life for your family....that's sooo good".
What kind of life is that when they hardly ever get to actually spend good quality time that makes life long memories like in the video. You tell me? This really fires me up and I want to show you how to spend time with your kids but first read this list of things that I used to do and if you can relate to them.
how to spend time with your kids (that was meant to be sarcastic)
- waking up before the sun comes up and telling your kids you LOVE them as they sleep in their beds.
- coming home so late that the kids are already in their beds trying to stay awake long enough to hear your voice and come running out to see you.
- show up 30 minutes late to a family function in your construction boots on Saturday yet again showing the kids what's really important in life (Our Jobs Right?)
- Always feeling like you need some personal time but never able to figure out where it can really fit in.
- Getting that sick feeling in your stomach on Sunday night because the work week starts tomorrow and maybe taking it out on the kids in frustration.
"No, don't do that!"
"What did I tell you!"
"Just Stop I can't take it anymore!"
- Telling the boys a bedtime story and realizing maybe their acting out because I'm never around and having to answer the question "Dad are you crying?"
- Going places and constantly telling them NO and why they can't have certain things because times are tight right now.
- Telling your kids they can "BE or "DO" anything they what in life but living a life that shows the exact opposite of what your telling them...
I know these things are very difficult to read...Heck, I lived them and just got choked up writing them down. How to spend time with your kids is an excellent question and not easily answered but I'm going to give it my best shot and please let me know what you think.
How To Spend Time With Your Kids....down to the nitty gritty
The way I see it is my boys will learn a lot about this world from school, interacting
with others and just plain old experiences that can't be duplicated. They must go
through them no matter how much we would like to protect or shelter them. So I
suggest teaching them things that are not taught in any school or church, that I
I've come to realize that I have been entrusted by God with four precious boys and
my sole duty in life is to equip them with tools so they are capable of making the
right choices. I'm saying that to any goal they have in life they must understand
it is always a zig zag pattern we follow to success. Whether it's a simple task of
picking up a pencil to getting a man on the moon there is a cybernetic system that
is constantly course correcting hence the zig zag pattern.
We were made for change, to grow and realize new and beautiful things all around
us. Temporary defeat (or some call it failure) is as much a part of life as eating and
drinking water. I will not shelter my kids from the harshness of life I understand that
it's my duty to preserve innocence but I'm more focusing on dealing with the way
others treat them and how they respond.
I tell my kids that everything is a choice, no one makes you mad, you choose to be
mad and that goes for every other feeling you have. no matter what your brother is
doing to you, you have a choice and no one can steal that from you....That's your
power. I remember the day when my 7 yr old came home from school and I asked
what did you do at school today and he answered "I chose to be happy!". I about
fell out of my chair!
How To Spend Time With Your Kids...Is there a Secret?
My point is that when I was growing up my parents never explained to me about
how how my feelings worked, how to actually cope using rational thought and know
that when things really get rough that it's just life making sure you're still alive and
kicking. I have no problems with how my parents raised me they did the best they
knew how. Growing up they were responsible for making me who I am....I'm
responsible for changing it.
These things are not secrets by no means but it's my experience that tells me most parents assume their kids will figure it out instead teaching them these things at a very young age. You might not think they're paying attention but believe when I tell you that their subconscious mind is recording everything!
"Life is a fight for territory and once you stop fighting for what you want, what you don't want will automatically take over" -Steve Dunkerton
Find out what I'm doing to plant my flag in the ground and never retreat, never
surrender for what I see in my family's future.
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